Today will be my DH's last day at his present job. (breathe in...breathe out).
He had a job interview yesterday, and was offered a job at less than half his current pay. The work would be mind-numbing. The amenities (access to a phone or computer) are non-existent. Did I mention that the pay is less than half of what he is currently earning? The thought of working at that job thoroughly depressed DH. The thought that, that would be the only kind of job that he would be offered has sent him into a tail-spin.
I know...at least he has a job offer. But at what price? Would it be better for him to take the job (any job) and continue looking for work (at least he would be bringing some money in)? What if each day at the new job would slowly eat away at him? Depress him? Reduce him to being less than he can be?
Would it be better if he doesn't take the job and continues to actively look? What if at the end of his severance pay period, he still doesn't have a job? Would he then kick himself for not taking the one job that he was offered?
It will be interesting to see what happens when he meets with the HR people for his exit interview. He has been offered 6 weeks of severance pay with a possible additional 6 weeks. There is some form that they said he would have to sign, in order to get the additional 6 weeks. DH has already spoken to our family friend/attorney and will fax the form to her as soon as he gets it. I am hoping that his receipt of the extra 6 weeks of severance pay is not contingent upon him not working. I guess we'll know later this afternoon.
In the meantime, DH told these people that he would let them know next Wednesday about the job. DH and I clearly have a lot to talk about. Did I already say... breathe in...breathe out?
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I am keeping you in my thoughts and prayers. So many choices, yikes.
that's a lot to think about.
i guess if the severance pay is contigent upon him not working that would make this a bit easier...take the money and keep looking for something better.
but if he can have both, it might be worth it to do both and continue to look elsewhere.
Has he tried a headhunter service? I believe that the employer pays the fees.
I'll be praying for you.
Oh boy, tough tough decisions indeed.
I wish I could see into the future for you guys but I cannot... I'm sorry.
I think in my case, I'd probably pass on the job as it is considerably less income and I know there are better choices out there and continue to look but it may not necessarily be the right option for you...
(Hug)
I wish I wasn't so familiar with these situations. DH should take a few days to decide on a plan first. The employment situation will change for the better, but I wouldn't consider taking any offer right now.
I keep hoping you guys will get good news. I don't know what I'd do in his situation. I guess it would depend on how badly we needed the money and what the probability was of finding a similar job if I waited and focused my time and efforts on finding a better job in the short term. I'm a big believer in "you gotta enjoy what you do," but I understand that in some situations a bad job is better than none at all.
Whatever you decide, all the best to you both!!!
I wish i knew what to tell you. I hate to see him take the job and then quit after getting a better one. I would also hate to see him stuck in a job he hates.
Wishing the best for you.
Yes, you and DH have much talking to do. If you're breathing in the manner you describe, DH may have flashbacks back to Lamaze class.
I'll keep you both in my thoughts...
My first thought is to tell DH not to take that offer. He is better off not being depressed going to work at a much lower-paying job than he had.
I think 12 weeks severance pay is pretty good, if that is what he will get.
Won't he get unemployment checks for six months as well?
marshamlow - Thanks. Hopefully he will have more choices to make...and soon:~)
Renee - 6 weeks of his severance pay has now been given to him. The second six weeks of severance pay is contingent upon him signing an agreement (which we will have our attorney/friend look at first)
Michele - You have the ability to 'see' so well through the lens of a camera...I was hoping that you would also have the gift to see into the future...sigh.
Ralph - Excellent advice. He will definitely take some time to think about this. We both know that there is a better job for him out there...the trick will be in him finding it.
lynanne - This looking for a job thing really does entail being a risk taker...as you are forced to decide "do I take this yucky job, or do I feel lucky and wait for a better offer"..kind of like the TV show "Deal or No Deal". Unfortunately for me...I can't ever watch that show because I get too stressed out.
Meno - You and me both...sigh
Patches - We actually took the Bradley classes...I'm thinking these decisions that we are facing are more difficult than deciding on names for our kids.
Patti - I don't think that he will take the job...the price to him will be too great. He will go the the unemployment office on Monday and see what he is entitled to.
Yikes. I would have to say don't take the job and have faith that the right one will come along. But wouldn't it be nice to be able to see into the future!
Good luck and I'll be thinking about you and hopng that that open window comes quickly!!
Got my fingers crossed, hope it all works out well.
I have faith that he will find something better and should not take the lower job. Working in an environment not enjoyable is tough, doable but very tough and you know from my situation how demoralizing it can be. Things will be ok. Don't either of you give up hope.
Oh, Lynn, I am there with you in this...
I think the severence buys you guys some time to look and wait for a decent offer. (Half of what he was making is NOT decent.)
Are there headhunting agencies in his field? It doesn't cost you anything and they work hard to make a good match between employer and employee. An employer is willing to pay a fee for an employee who has been carefully screened and matched to their needs.
Hang in there.
Breathe.
This too shall pass. Not as soon as you'd like it to, but it will, indeed, pass.
Hugs.
I am sorry I'm so far behind on your blog. How are things going? I think you saw on my blog I've been the main income worker at my house for quite awhile. it's not easy. best of luck to both of you.
Leanne - My DH agrees with you...there is just no way that he can take that job. It would be nice to see into the future.
Deb - Could you please cross your toes too?
The Moose Buyer - So far we are still hopeful...however, the stress is there anyway.
Pam - You are right...I guess that job offer would be considered an indecent proposal. DH has a lot of people looking for work for him, just not a formal headhunter. I don't know if there are head hunters for his field of work. We will check that out. Thanks for the hugs:~)
Slow Panic - Before kids, I didn't mind that I earned more than DH. Now that I work part-time, the thought that I am the main income worker at my house is scary.
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