Thursday, March 20, 2008

Can You Say "Too Much Time Together?"

DH is still out of work. I have been off of work this week for Spring Break. DH wants to follow me around when I complete my errands. egads!


I've definitely enjoyed going for walks with DH and the dog. I've also enjoyed laughing and joking around with hubby. I've enjoyed that he has been available to take Sport to some of his sporting practices. It's really nice having someone to share in the afternoon chauffering. However, I still must say...enough is enough! I need some time to go and run some errands by myself. Alone. Solo. Just me. Well, I'm sure you get the idea:~) DH has decided that everytime I go to run an errand...he wants to come with me. Invariable this makes the errand last twice as long:~( Again, don't get me wrong...for the most part, I am really enjoying spending time with him...just not enjoying entertaining him.


I guess that's what it really comes down to. I have figured out, over the years, how to entertain myself...and the kids. Entertaining DH has not fit into the equation in a long, long time. Maybe it should. Maybe that is part of what a marriage is about. It's just that I'm not used to it.


It sure would be great to win the lottery...of course I would have to buy a ticket first... breathe in...breathe out.

11 comments:

Patti said...

I also need to breathe in...breathe out.

And win the lottery! Do you guys get a chance to stop for coffee or ice cream while running errands during the day?

That would be entertaining ;-)

Ralph and I have been spending a lot of time together as well. But maybe we are more used to it!!!!

Michele said...

Yeh, my DH and I spend tons of time together but just imagine a tiny apartment!
We get used to it and really, We don't mind. We have become best friends now and if anything it really has strengthened the relationship. We talk about all sorts of stuff that I really didn't know about him and I've been married to him for 20 years!!
Hopefully you'll win that lottery but umm... rules do require that in order to collect a prize, you must purchase a ticket, so I would probably recommend you do that, k?
Happy Easter, Lynn.

Ralph said...

Has Amber said anything about spending 'too much time together' with DH yet?

Renee Nefe said...

I bet you never thought that you would be wishing for the day you have to go back to work. I hear that many couples feel like this when they retire.

Time to talk to DH and tell him that while you love him dearly you need your own space too.

And I'm so with you on the errands taking twice as long (if not longer) when the DH is along. You should see my grocery cart when DH is with me!!! He is like a kid in the candy shop, his eyes get all round.

breathe

re: my nothing looking like quite a bit...you know when I first started that post it did feel as if I had done nothing but looking at it afterward it did look like quite a bit. However there were plenty of days of nothing in there that I skipped over. There have been too many days of me in front of the computer doing nothing.

Have a great Easter.

sari said...

we always have that problem on the first monday of any break...we're all used to two days at home together, but that third day? whoo!

eventually we all settle out but everyone needs their space.

Marshamlow said...

I think I would feel the same way, I know that during vacations and such I am ready for him to go back to work. I am sure it will work itself out eventually.

meno said...

I get it. I am so used to doing things on my own. Like grocery shopping. I know what i want and i go in and get it. The Mister wants to meander. Ugh!

Unknown said...

Keep breathing.

I know. I'm still getting used to having O around now that he closed his bookstore. Actually, we're all getting used to it, after having him gone 10-hours a day, 7 days a week for almost 3 years. Now I'm the one who's out of the house at school. I'm still trying to get him used to doing some of the chores. And it's like we have to get used to each other again. It's...different.

Pam said...

Hi Lynn... I haven't been around much lately but am still thinking often about you and the job situation. (And praying for good news soon!) Hang in there.

Happy Easter!

ms chica said...

I identify completely this. When my Mister is home for a one or two week stretch, I have to remind myself to be more patient about sharing my time, and like you, I remind myself to breathe. It has gotten easier over time.

Lynn said...

Patti - We don't get to stop for coffee or icecream while we're on errands...because we're trying to save money.

Michele - That darn lottery. I knew there was a catch. Imagine having to actually purchase tickets.

Ralph - Amber is loving spending time with DH. They go for a walk during the day now, in addition to their nightly walk. I think that Amber is secretly hoping that DH never gets a job.

Renee - When we were dating...and then newly married, we were both working, so even though we spent a lot of time together...it wasn't this much time. Thirteen years ago, when DH was last laid off we had an infant (Elle) and so I welcomed that he was home all of the time.

Sari - I am hoping that with time, this togetherness will feel less intense. Actually, with me back at work this week, it's been better:~)

Marshamlow - Eventually feels like a long time away. sigh

Meno - You hit the nail on the head. He meanders (as if he has all the time in the world...which he currently does), and I go in with a purpose.

Nancy Dancehall - Handing over control of some household duties can be difficult. I am such a control freak (at times...and of course only in a good way) that I find it hard not to criticize the way he does some things.

Pam - Thanks. I know that you understand. How is Joe's new job?

Ms Chica - I am hoping that he has a new job before we have to get too used to this togetherness.